For the month of June, I decided to try something different for my self-care. Every Wednesday in the month of June I took myself on a date. I called it Wellness Wednesday. In doing so I unlocked feelings of empowerment, independence, and freedom to explore things.
Here are 5 great benefits which solo dating can contribute to your overall well-being and why you should date yourself, or solo date. You can view my experiences by scanning the QR code on my TikTok.
1. Self-Discovery and Self-Awareness: When you date yourself, you have the opportunity to spend quality time alone, exploring your own interests, preferences, and desires. This self-focused time allows you to delve deeper into self-discovery, gaining a better understanding of who you are as an individual. It fosters self-awareness and helps you build a stronger relationship with yourself.
2. Self-Care and Nurturing: Taking yourself out on dates is a form of self-care. It demonstrates that you value yourself and prioritize your own well-being. Engaging in activities that bring you joy, whether it’s treating yourself to a spa day, going for a solo hike, or enjoying a meal at your favorite restaurant, can be incredibly nourishing and rejuvenating for your mind, body, and soul.
3. Independence and Empowerment: Dating yourself encourages independence and self-reliance. It teaches you to enjoy your own company and be comfortable being alone. By actively spending time with yourself, you become more self-assured and self-reliant, fostering a sense of empowerment and autonomy.
The next two benefits,(4. and 5.) resonated with me on this particular solo date (see TikTok below). I really wanted to visit this Woman/Black-owned bookstore called BlackLit. However, it was a considerably far distance from my home. I should have first stated that I do not like to drive. I mean after being married the majority of my adult life, I guess I have grown accustomed to being chauffeured around. So being single has been quite an adjustment for me in many areas. Some were so small that I rarely even noticed until I was faced with them. Embarking on this experience boosted my self-confidence and my self-esteem. It also brought a sense of awareness of my dependency on others and allowed me to develop a more independent mindset.
4. Reduced Dependency on Others: When you cultivate the practice of dating yourself, you become less reliant on external sources for happiness and fulfillment. You learn to find joy and contentment within yourself, rather than seeking validation or companionship solely from others. This reduces the pressure and expectations placed on external relationships, allowing you to develop healthier and more balanced connections with others.
5. Increased Confidence and Self-Esteem: Solo Dating boosts self-confidence and self-esteem. By engaging in activities alone and stepping out of your comfort zone, you prove to yourself that you can enjoy life’s experiences independently. This increased self-assurance positively impacts various aspects of your life and can enhance your overall well-being.
Have you ever found yourself really wanting to experience a certain event, or go watch a particular movie, but you know it’s not something your partner or friends would be interested in doing? So instead of having that experience and finding enjoyment and fulfillment in life, you forfeit your happiness. 6. Freedom and Exploration: Solo Dating opens up a world of possibilities for exploration and adventure. You have the freedom to choose activities and experiences that genuinely interest you without compromising or considering the preferences of others. This freedom allows for personal growth, new discoveries, and the development of recent passions and interests.
My Wellness Wednesday solo dating experience was powerful. It allowed me to develop a deeper connection with myself, reduce dependency on others for validation, and cultivate a greater sense of confidence and well-being. If you have not tried solo dating, I encourage you to explore the idea of dating yourself and embark on a journey of self-love, exploration, and personal growth.
So now Blissful Tribe, I would like to hear from you. Have you tried Solo dating? Did any of the listed benefits resonate with you?
Stay Blessed and Blissed
Dr. Lorraine
Ma’am, you are so amazing. Yes, I have done solo dating and l still do it sometimes. Solo dating is a great way of doing some of the fun things you enjoy doing. It’s just like you mentioned, going it alone makes you happy. Taking out the duty of trying to please someone else in the process.
Hello. That is very kind of you. I appreciate the compliment. It’s pleasing to know that you have tried solo dating and enjoy it. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
Love this post! Self-awareness and self-discovery has really been an important evolution for me over the years.